No Face Card Needed, Because Art Isn’t a Popularity Contest
There’s a strange energy floating around the internet lately.
The kind where someone who doesn’t know your name, your story, or your sacred “why” suddenly feels deeply entitled to tell you about yourself.
They comment on your body.
Your outfit.
Your voice.
Your face.
Your audacity to exist publicly.
Maybe they think they're being helpful. Maybe they're projecting. Maybe they're just bored.
But here’s the truth, soft and sharp like a well-loved blade:
You do not owe anyone beauty. Or silence. Or your disappearance.
When Did Showing Up Become So Controversial?
If you’ve ever posted a picture, launched a creative project, or dared to be joyful in your skin, you’ve probably met them, the unsolicited advice givers.
They drop their opinions like glitter bombs with no clean-up plan.
"You’d look better with makeup."
"Why would you wear that with your body type?"
"She’s not even that cute."
"It’s giving… too much confidence."
Too much confidence??
Oh, honey. That’s exactly the point.
We don’t show up because we need validation.
We show up because we decided to stop waiting for permission.
Being Seen Is a Radical Act
For women, femmes, creatives, and anyone who lives outside the Instagram “ideal,” simply being visible can feel like a rebellion.
But here’s what I want you to remember:
You don’t need to be ‘hot’ to be heard.
You don’t need to be perfect to be powerful.
You don’t need to be liked to be free.
Your art, your joy, your softness, your sexuality, your weirdness, they don’t require a face card or public approval.
They require truth. And you’ve got that in spades.
To the Commenters: Let’s Do Better
If you're someone who’s ever said, “I’m just being honest,” or “I’d want someone to tell me,” this is your gentle reminder:
Honesty without empathy is cruelty dressed up in a Sunday hat.
Before you type, ask:
Did they ask for my feedback?
Is this uplifting, or just unsolicited?
Would I say this to someone I love?
If the answer is “no”… maybe don’t.
This isn’t about canceling people for speaking. It’s about unlearning the belief that everything we see is ours to critique.
Especially when it comes to people just… existing.
Keep Creating. Keep Showing Up. Keep Being Loud.
If no one has told you lately:
Your face is not required to be society’s ideal of divine.
Your art doesn’t need to be explained.
You are enough just as you are. In your robe, in your glow-up, in your mess, in your magic.
And if you're looking for a bit more tenderness wrapped in truth?
🎙 Listen to the full podcast episode:
No Face Card Needed – Because Art Isn’t a Popularity Contest
(Click here to tune in now.)
